What is normal behavior for a child?
Normal behavior in children depends on the child’s age, personality, and physical and enthusiastic advancement. A kid’s conduct might be an issue in the event that it doesn’t coordinate the desires for the family or on the off chance that it is problematic. Ordinary or “great” conduct is typically controlled by whether it’s socially, socially, and developmentally fitting. Realizing what’s in store from your child at each age will help you decide whether his or her behavior is normal.
How can we guide children without punishment?
1.Regulate your own emotions.
That’s how children learn to manage theirs. You’re the good example. Try not to act when you’re disturbed. Take a full breath and hold up until you’re quiet before you address the circumstance. Oppose the drive to be punitive; it always backfires.
2.Beat the Clock
Ask the child to do a task. Set a timer. If the task is done before the timer rings, your child gets a reward. To decide the amount of time to give the child, figure out your child’s “best time” to do that task and add 5 minutes.
3.Empathize with feelings.
When your child is hijacked by adrenaline and other battle or flight hormones, he can’t learn. Rather than addressing, pre-empt the awful conduct with a “Period In” where you remain with him and recognize his sentiments. This isn’t a discipline, however a chance to reconnect so he can get genuinely managed. On the off chance that he moves into an emergency, don’t attempt to dissuade him. Simply make security with your empathy so he can express and work through the feelings that are driving his bad behavior. Afterwards, he’ll feel so much better, and so much closer to you, that he’ll be open to your guidance.
4.The Good Behavior Game
Write a short list of good behaviors on a chart and mark the chart with a star each time you see the good behavior. After your child has earned a small number of stars (depending on the child’s age), give him or her a reward.
5.Good Marks/Bad Marks
In a brief time (about 60 minutes) put a blemish on an outline or on your youngster’s hand each time you see the person in question playing out a decent conduct. For instance, in the event that you see your kid playing unobtrusively, tackling an issue without battling, grabbing toys, or reading a book, you would check the diagram. After a specific number of imprints, give your kid a reward. You can also make negative denotes each time a terrible conduct happens. If you do this, only give your child a reward if there are more positive marks than negative marks.
6.Give support so they can learn.
Consider the example of potty learning. You’re required from the start. She bit by bit takes a greater amount of the duty, and in the end she’s doing everything independent from anyone else. A similar guideline holds for figuring out how to state Thank You, alternating, recalling her effects, sustaining her pet, doing schoolwork, and most everything else you can consider. Schedules give the “platform” for your tyke to learn fundamental aptitudes, similarly as framework gives structure to a structure to come to fruition. You might be mad that she forgot her jacket again, but yelling won’t help her remember. “Scaffolding” will.
7.Developing Quiet Time
Ask your child to play quietly alone or with a kin for a brief span (possibly 30 minutes). Beware of your kid as often as possible (each 2 to 5 minutes, contingent upon the youngster’s age) and give a reward or a token for every couple of minutes they were peaceful or playing admirably. Bit by bit increment the intervals (go from checking your youngster’s conduct each 2 to 5 minutes to checking at regular intervals) however keep on giving prizes for each time period your kid was peaceful or played well.
8.Connect before you correct
Connect before you correct, and stay connected, even while you guide, to awaken your child’s desire to be his best self. Remember that children misbehave when they feel bad about themselves and disconnected from us.
Make loving eye contact: “You are so upset right now.”
Put your hand on her shoulder: “You’re scared to tell me about the cookie.”
Stoop down to her level and look her in the eye: “I see how mad you are…I’m listening. Tell me in words.”
Pick her up: “Nothing’s going right for you today, is it?”
9.Teach kids to repair.
Begin with the early lesson that we as a whole tidy up our very own wrecks, by unassumingly snatching paper towels and helping your kid tidy up his spilled milk, with no fault and no disgrace. As he gets somewhat more seasoned, recommend that once he quiets down, he can figure out how to make up with his sister after a battle: would she like an embrace? Illustration? Make an appearance? Oppose disgracing, and model fix and saying ‘sorry’ you will find him following in your footsteps.
10.Remember that all “misbehavior” is an expression, however misguided, of a legitimate need.
He has a reason, regardless of whether you don’t believe it’s a decent one. His conduct is awful? He should feel awful inside. Does he need more rest, more association with you, more personal time, increasingly opportunity to cry and discharge those irritating feelings we as a whole store up? Address the basic need and you kill the misbehavior.
Things to consider
Parents may choose to use physical punishment (such as spanking) to stop undesirable behavior. The biggest downside to this strategy is that in spite of the fact that the discipline stops the terrible conduct for some time, it doesn’t show your tyke to change his or her conduct. Restraining your kid is extremely simply showing the person in question to pick great practices. In the event that your youngster doesn’t know a decent conduct, the individual in question is probably going to come back to the terrible conduct. Physical discipline turns out to be less viable with time and can make the tyke act forcefully. It can likewise be conveyed excessively far into tyke misuse. Other methods of punishment are preferred and should be used whenever possible.